Years That Ask Questions

The thing about cob­webs, though, is their extreme flam­ma­bil­ity. At first it was exhil­a­rat­ing to watch those tire­some ques­tions go up in smoke. In their absence I was con­tent to roll along inside my joy bub­ble, sure it would pop soon enough. When it proved resilient, new ques­tions burned their way unbid­den into my head. Bet­ter ques­tions. The kind you have to answer, if you’re doing it right, every sec­ond of your life. […]

Small Hopes and a Plan

It’s not really a magic spell, I guess. It’s intu­ition (magic, I guess, by another name, but we’re not going to get any­where ratio­nal in this post). I use intu­ition like sonar: it tells me the shape of things with­out offer­ing much in the way of detail. Once I know the shape, every­thing else about a rela­tion­ship is learn­ing to see each other in the dark. This is not an unerr­ing process. There’s a lot of fum­bling and stub­bing of toes on the furniture. […]

Escape Velocity, Part II

The first time I stood on UNCA’s cam­pus was for a math test, of all things. My dad drove the two hours into the moun­tains with me, and we both looked a lit­tle cock-eyed at the line of dread­locked, Birkenstock-clad hip­pie chil­dren stream­ing into the lec­ture hall. Dad knew the type and didn’t much like them, I guess, but I’d never spent any time out­side of my home­town, and just had no idea what to make of the de facto uni­form my new peers were wear­ing. It was a far cry from the camo jeans and base­ball caps back home. […]